Breaking Patterns of Self-Sabotage

𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑜𝑤𝑛 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑠𝑡 𝑒𝑛𝑒𝑚𝑦…

𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑡𝑡𝑙𝑒 𝑑𝑒𝑚𝑜𝑛…

𝐹𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝑏𝑙𝑜𝑐𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛…

The things I hear my members say let me know the progress and how fast it will be.

“𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑠 𝑡𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑒.”

“𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑠 𝑘𝑖𝑙𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑚𝑒.”

“𝑇ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑖𝑠 𝑛𝑜 𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝐼 𝑐𝑎𝑛…”

Ok. You create your reality homie. What you think and speak with emotion becomes your reality.

Check out what Bruce Lee said in the quote in the pic.

These are all phrases to describe a common problem in healthy living, work, and relationships. It’s called self-sabotage, the tendency to undermine yourself by taking action that prevents you from getting what you want.

I like the first way of putting it, because I’ve felt like my own worst enemy in the past. It seemed like I’d start progressing on achieving something important to me, and then I’d stumble in a familiar way.

You’ve probably done it, too, and that’s OK. Most people have. Let’s say you’re this close to returning your posture and strength. You had a goal and trusted the process, and then you decide to go for a run because you want to satisfy your ego, and those areas of your body that were almost back to normal become dysfunctional again.

In my experience, this comes from a secondary motivation based on your subconscious conditioned fear. In this case, you could say it was to fulfill the secondary motivation of being the victim.

The desire to continue to see yourself as a victim was greater than your willingness to take control of your body and have it work for you.

Here are some simple tips I’ve used to recognize what’s happening and take action to stop it.

👉🏽 𝐑𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐠𝐧𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠. You know yourself better than anyone, so bake the potential for self-sabotage into any plan. Some common symptoms of it are a refusal to ask for help, controlling behavior, negative self-talk, and a reluctance to speak up for yourself.

👉🏽𝐈𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐟𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐥𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮. You might have a deep-seated fear that you’ll always be second in your parents’ eyes, so why bother looking your best for a family event? Whatever the fear is, once you name it, you can deal with it.

👉🏽𝐖𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐭 – the plan, the potential for self-sabotage, the whole thing.

Tell a friend, coach or mentor about the plan, the potential for self-sabotage and the fear. This person can hold you accountable – not only toward achieving the desired outcome, but also to helping you overcome that self-limiting fear.

👉🏽 𝐅𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐧. Do what you need to do. And when that little demon speaks up – as it might – be prepared to ignore it. You don’t have to convince it to be quiet. Just don’t feed it with any attention or energy.

The key is to expect the tricks that little guy’s going to try on you and to have a plan to thwart him at every turn.

Sabotage “HIM”, so he can’t sabotage YOU.