“Do these three 3 things and achieve X.”
“My 10 steps to achieve X.”
“I used this exact system to achieve X.”
These are common type phrases that you’ll see marked toward you in various mediums. And they all imply that if you “just” do what the title talks about, you will get “x.” It seems foolproof that you will succeed if you follow this plan and use a little elbow grease.
And if you have a recipe you’re going to make or a home improvement project you need assistance on, these would be great.
But you are not a recipe. And so if these articles or programs that use these titles are for self-improvement, then….Ummmm Huh! As I say to my kids when they tell me something that isn’t true. 😉
Relying on this “recipe” is just another way to absolve yourself of the responsibility of learning and growing into the person you need to be to achieve X.
If it were as easy as following some steps of a plan, everybody would be rich, with an amazing body and a life seen in movies.
But that is not reality. Nobody is going to do it for you. You have to do it. It’s your life.
The Facts on getting Results
Let’s get an essential points down. Those 3 or 10 steps or the system you are reading about will likely not be the only things you need to do.
Common sense says so.
The main point is that that little “= “sign is not so little in achieving that “X” you want to achieve.
That equals is the changes you need to make to become the person who can achieve “X.” It equals the trial, failure, learning, and adaptation you must undergo to reach “X.”
Working on the equals is the secret sauce.
So any “X” you want to achieve needs to have a philosophy to it to reach this goal. A philosophy allows for learning and adaptation to get you there.
Not some dogmatic steps you take that will lead most people to frustration and self-doubt.
That is why, in my therapy and fitness company, I use a holistic philosophy with thousands of different treatments, exercises, and stretches that allow me to adapt to help people achieve their “X” health and fitness goals.
Example:
Person 1 went the PT route and was told to do these three exercises for it and was given a handout: 1) Mckenzie press-up, 2) the clamshell exercise for their hip muscle, 3) Planks for their” core.”
The person had finished PT but had kept up with the exercises even though they told me they weren’t helping. After an evaluation and watching them move, I can see that they have an unbalanced SI joint, a flat lower back, no abdominal strength, and bad posture. Their only imaging showed what I talked about with their SI joint and lower back, showing some arthritis and degeneration at L4/L5.
With this info, I asked them to stop their current program and incorporate mine, which would take them away from McKenzie press-ups to ELDOA’S, which are spinal strengthening and opening exercises. Mckenzie press-ups are only good in one instance and if your body can properly open in the specific area you need. That is not usually the case. ELDOAs are specific, so I gave them one for the L4/L5, L5/S1, T8/T9 and C4/C5. So that we address the “main” area and other essential parts of the spine as they work together.
I also asked them to stop the planks. In life, your body needs strength, endurance, and mobility. The ab’s two main jobs are strength, mobility, and endurance for the spine. And so how you train your body is how it will react in life. Planks mainly train endurance and a little strength, as it is an isometric exercise. A better idea is to teach the abs and spine to move the way they waere designed. So I gave them a “good morning,” which is an ab exercise where you are sitting, holding your knees, and learning to roll down and roll up. This will lead to the 100s of abs exercises you can do, which is essential to having a good abs and a healthy spine.
I asked them to substitute the clamshell for a more holistic hip-strengthening exercise. You see, the clamshell only targets the middle fiber of this muscle, but there are three. Each muscle fiber needs to be put under tension to make it work. Also, the glute med doesn’t work alone as it is attached via fascia (connective tissue of the body) down to the tips of your toes and the tip of your head. So the posture you take has to put in tension one of the 3 fibers and the connection from the toes to the head.
This will significantly alleviate their back pain, BUT there is no way I would stop there. I would need to treat their SI joint because the lower back will never be balanced if the pelvis isn’t balanced. I would incorporate, at a minimum, some myofascial stretches for some pelvic trochanter (muscles from the pelvis to leg), the Iliopsoas, the glute max deep, and the glute medius. This would allow the muscles to return to normal and balance the body.
They would have to find out how they managed this program by setting aside time to do it and managing their mental and emotional baggage, which always comes up.
I would then adapt to what they were telling me and what I was seeing and feeling.
They would have to go through the pains of unlearning and relearning aspects of themselves and allow themselves to become that person who doesn’t have back pain.
We’ve all been there. You are not alone.
I’ve been there.
I work hard and thought that if I worked hard enough and did the steps, I would achieve my “X” things.
It didn’t for me.
For some, it did.
But in all these programs, the vast majority didn’t.
And for me, it led to frustration and self-doubt.
It was not super fun, but it taught me a lesson I knew I should return to.
You have to grow into a person who can achieve your desires. Your desires are there because you can reach them.
But you must accept the path that takes you there, not blindly follow a “recipe” and get mad when it doesn’t work.
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